I accept and love my daughter whole heartedly exactly as she is — no changes needed . I see her qualities and I see the areas that are challenges for her — I see her vulnerability — and it doesn’t change my love. In fact, because I accept her so much, I love her even more deeply. She is whole and she is worthy of my love — only because she is her and not because of anything she does. She is mine. I love her when she’s tired and cranky. I love her when she feels unwell. I love her when she radiates joy. I love her when she makes mistakes. I love her when she gets back up on the ice. I love her when she doesn’t listen to me. You get the picture. I love her all the time.
I know that kind of big unconditional love is inside me. If I give it freely to her, can I give it to myself?
In one of Dr Joe Dispenza’s guided meditations that I practice, he says: be worthy to receive. For a long time I would stumble on that word. It felt like there was a blockage. Like I could believe so many things about myself, but worthiness was hard to swallow.
I’m sometimes so intent on transforming myself and on self-improvement, that I forget about loving and accepting myself just the way I am.
There’s a fine line between striving to become my very best self, and just being me, satisfied with who I am, accepting and loving the full package of myself.
I am not a fixer upper — on old house that needs repairs. I am fine just the way I am right now. I am a human, and that includes a bright shining side and a dark side.
My meditation teacher Hoben says that enlightenment is to realize who you are already. That it’s like taking mud off the windshield with the wipers. Suddenly you can see. You realize the goodness of your inner nature and the love that is in you and all around you.
Kris Carr writes: “Let go of who you think you should be and fall madly in love with who you are in this moment.”
How about making a list of what’s great about you right now? No changes needed. No conditions.
My self-talk:
I am whole.
I accept myself just the way I am.
I am worthy of love just the way I am.
This is what’s great about me right now: I am kind. I am generous. I am funny. I am calm. I am creative. I love to meditate. I am filled with love for my daughter and my family. I’m a great cook.
Thanks for reading.
With all my wishes that you feel self-acceptance today,
Maryse
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